Grief and love hold us

Welcome. We’re glad you found us, but we’re very sorry you’re here. 

Nothing makes sense. And we get that. So we want to share what we’ve learned along the way — a soft string of lights for you to follow as you find your way in the dark. 

it’s challenging to find support when the worst thing happens

we've been there

When nothing helps, when nothing matters, here are some ideas on what may help move you into the next moment: journaling, yoga, coloring, taking a walk, taking a shower, taking a breath. You get the idea. Even doom scrolling on Twitter can be the answer for now.

It’s okay to be sad; it’s okay to laugh. You can do both. Whatever you’re feeling right now is right. Whether you are in the throes of early grief or years in, you are not alone. 

Your grief, your pain, is as large as your love. And that pain needs to be heard. Not fixed, not dismissed, but acknowledged. 

This book is the most incredible resource: Megan Divine understands that grief is lonely, strange, overwhelming, and definitely not something to be fixed. It needs to be carried.

when no one understands

we're here for you

we understand

very dark places

Dr. Joanne Cacciatore’s book, Megan Divine’s grief journal and Refuge in Grief writing course provide ways to share your pain. Writing and reading your grief is powerful, painful, and really, really necessary. Your pain needs to be spoken.

Every day I think I couldn’t possibly grieve for my son more, and every day there is more and more grief in my heart for him. 

I write to remember; I write to forget. You can, too. Use your voice to speak your pain. Write it down. Save it, share it, tear it up, or all of the above. Your pain is yours, and so are your words. 

Please visit some of my words.

writing

letters to Derek